News!!!!! I'm alive

Hey people!!! I'm back from the death... I bring good news... one is that I'm following many people's advice to be happy... have a relationship with oneself... its a great way to fill any emptiness you may feel... I've been giving myself some presents, the one I really wanted was a bouquet of white roses... my favourite flower... Many people looked at me weird... but I was so happy to have those flowers... enjoy their smell and many things more, feeling really special...

Now another news is that since the begining of the semester, a friend of mine at the "No Cafetería" is teaching me how to play with the hula hoop. I can now hold the hula on my waist, and do many tricks now... so far i'm doing good... hope I can tell you a bit more about this...

Cya, H&K

Back from the death...

Sorry for not posting anything for the past few weeks, but I've been so busy with school and homework. Now, the news are:

1. I've been learning a new type of therapy and I want to make it my way to work.
2. I've got some new clothes and I'm on my way to learn more about the fashion world without becoming a "plastic"
3. One of my "friends" or rather my "free", as called in Mexico, is currently dating with someone else, wich makes me sad for I respect when people have a "date". This reduces my dating list to 0 entries.
4. My english listening is improving greately

I'm going to endure this hard time, I'll try to keep you up to what's going on in my life and what I find interesting in the daily life of anyone...

Cya, H&K

The week is out...

Finally the end of the week, not that it was quite long, but it sure was a bit busy. The first week of classes went out like wind, I love my new teachers and classmates. Most of my classes seem to be what i expected from them, many of them are going to be so funny, others may not. I think this semester I'm going to learn a lot of things. Starting from interview, it's going to be an awesome class for we are going to make interviews to real people not only roleplaying at the classroom. I'm so excited, many of the things that i've to read for the next week are so... how to say it, interesting is not enough but I cannot find another word to express what do I think of those texts. Gestalt, Tests, Capacitation, Interviews, so many things to learn!!!! Lets hope my semester keep this way.

Cya, H&K

1st day... Not so Bad...

Today was my first day of classes. I was so happy to return to the university after a month and a half of being on vacation, I missed my school, classrooms, food, teachers, everything but the thing I missed the most were my friends, specially the ones that I couldn't see this holidays to give them a hug and their presents. There were also very happy to see me. To hang out with them for a while made my day. Catching up a bit and comparing schedules to see if we were going to have classes together. I'll be seeing some of them very often, some others may be not... But that doesn't mean that I'll never see them again.

My classes were just an introduction of what are we going to learn in this semester. For all those who do not know, I'm studying psychology. My first class was english, it was cool, meet new people, nothing new for now. My first class at the faculty was supposed to last 3 hours, we had only the half of it. And the second class, which also was supposed to last 3 hours, we had about 45 mins of class. The main topic in all the classes were the way we are going to ve evaluated, so far I have few things to worry about at the end of the semester, but i still have 5 more subjects this week. That's all for today, wish me luck for tomorrow, because I have 4 classes and it seem to be a very long day.

Cya, H&K

Good News... Bad News...

Hi everyone! Here's the news... First of all I want to appologize for missing the yesterday publication, i wasn't at home. Now, the good news is that tomorrow will start my next semester at the university, so i'm quite excited, i'll have plenty of classes and now i'm going to meet new people as always and i've inscribed myself in a programm titled 'socialitation of the sexuality in the UNAM" and i'm so excited about it. The bad news is that due my schedule do not leave me much time for making a daily publication tho' i'll try to do my best and make a publication at least once a week. to catch up with everything that has happened. I'll even try to make a publication between clases. For no i'l have to leave you with just a phrase that you all know:

"Do not regret anything, thank for what you've got, respect and must importantly: Be Happy"

 That's all for today hope to talk to you all soon!!!

Cya, H&K

"Life in a day"

Wow... today i saw a movie called "Life in a day". At the beggining i didn't knew what to expect. This movie was nothing like other movies. This IS a movie of life, happiness, sadness, life, death, disease, joy, everything. Almost everywhere in the world is seen in this movie. I was amazed by all what can be said and done in one day around the world. The movie was broadcasted on youtube, the premiere of course, in the course of the year it will be released for everyone to watch. This movie/documental make me think if we value what's life, in one day many things can happen, we are fortunate to live. Today i gave thanks for being alive and having all what i've got, because we can see in this movie many types of ways of living. I want to congratulate Davey Wavey for his participation in this film.  It was because of him that i knew about this film. The part of the movie when he appeared was so touching. If you have, in the future, a oportunity to see this movie i hope you will not regret of seeing it.



There will be changes soon... wait for them.

Cya, H&K

My favorite hobbies...

Here i list some of my favorite hobbies, they will always put me in good mood and bring peace to me:

• Dancing.- I always enjoy dancing, anywhere, anytime, even when I'm not precisely a professional I always try to make my best.
• Music.- There are many songs that I like to hear, there is always a song acording to my mood.
• Knitting.- Yeah, I know, is weird for a man to know knitting.I think it is quite relaxing, plus it is an excellent cathartic.
• Reading.- A book with an excellent story is my drug-free way to imagine things that do not exist.
•  Swimming.- Though I don't have much chance to swim very often, i sure love swiming whenever i can, water calms me down when I'm nervous, mad or sad.

 
 

What are your favorite hobbies? Post them on the comments.

Cya, H&K

I want to go to...

We all have a favourite place we would like to visit sometime in our life. I, for example, want to go to many places: England, USA, Canada, France, Egypt, Greece, Italy, China, Japan, New Zeland and Brazil. It sounds like a long and expensive trip. Traveling is something wonderful because you can meet new people, learn more about the culture and costums. Every country is unique, even your own country, if we can't afford a long trip we can always visit different parts of our country for there's much to be seen.

I envy those who travel to other countries for work in some measure for they can see the wonders of the world. On the other hand, as they are in a work trip, they don't have much time to learn about the culture and the costums. Every place on earth has its own costums, some of those are categorized as mankind's cultural heritage and are worth seeing them. If you have an oportunity to see one of them don't waste it. Have any of you visited another country and learned something about that country??? What??? Comment below

Cya, H&K

Respect me!!!

Today a friend (girl) of mine slapped me softly, playing i want to believe, so I played along. She started to be a bit more agressive in this "game" and I must say that I do not tolerate being disrespected, so i told her to respect me for i do not tolerate this behavior. She calmed down and tried to apologize by saying that she liked me... and so... but i was upset with her and i went to escort another friend home. My friend told me that how could i do such thing, "slap her". I told him that i was playing, that i didn't know what she was doing.

I was raised as a respectful person. I respect those who respect me, and even if they to not, i respect them in some measure. I've never tolerated to be hit, with the time, i learned to endure it when it's a game, because there is no ill will. But when i don't feel like it's a game, i will defend myself, for i will not allow to anyone to abuse of my kindness. Many people categorize me as a peaceful person, because i'm kind with everyone who is kind to me. Thankfully I never had to fight with anyone, and i hope my record won't be interrupted. Give respect to those who respect you. Become respect and you will not have problems. Live and let live.

Cya, H&K

For the kid we all have inside...

Sometimes we have a moment where we want to get back to be kids, there are some things that we keep from our childhood, and i do not mean material things, but rather habits or customs, even some preferences. I, for example, like many Disney movies and songs, and i like to watch movies and cartoons. There is no shame on that, i always feel joy when i see them. Now i even expanded my likes, i now hear disney music in english, not only in spanish, i like to play videogames, play at the playground, and many more things.

My imagination fly from time to time creating new worlds where everything can happen, my own story of a wonderland, characters, situations, many things, but is a bit complicated to describe my thoughts because they are not so childish anymore. When those moments come i feel like a kid again. I know few people who also enjoy those moments when you realize that childhood is not gone away. Sharing those moments when the fun that you felt when you were kid lives again inside you are moments that you will not forget easily. Take time and try to remember your childhood, and try to do some things that you used to do. Do you feel it?

Cya, H&K

Working out???

This year i want to make changes in my life... starting for making something for myself. A few weeks ago i visited a park where i used to play when i was a kid near my house. It had new exercise equipment, so i decided to go and work out. It has been a long time since i did excercise for the last time. School and homework has consumed all my time but as i am still on vacation i have plenty of time. I had to get used to do excercise again, the sore of the muscles, the sweat, everything.



You can always meet new people, you must do what you can do and not exceed one's limit, because too much exercise can harm you instead of making any good. I encourage everyone to do some exercise, there is no crime in trying to remain healthy, and it's also a way to look better. I'm not saying that the physical image is the only thing that matters, but health is first. Do not forget  the saying: "Health is Beauty", the important thing is that you feel good the way you are. It doesn't matter where you do exercise, but if you can do it with somebody else is better for you will not get bored so easily. I'm beautiful the way i am, and so are you.

Cya, H&K

I can't do it alone...

Many people try always to make things their own way, and do not ask for help, for they think they can handle the situation by themselves. But the truth is that they do need help sometimes. the worst thing people can have is an enormous pride, because they cannot allow themselves "to look" weak or stupid. But the truth is that rejecting any kind of help make them look weak, in the sense that trying to show strenght where there is none. No one is allmighty, everybody need help from time to time.

 

The problem comes when people have a problem that is afecting his or her life and they try to handle it alone. Depression is an example,  depressed people do not want help even when inside they desperately look for it. To loose weight, to study, to learn something, anorexia, bulimia, adictions. These are some of the common problems people usualy reject to be helped. If you know, deep down, that you need help, do not reject it, people only want your wellbeing. And if you know someone who need help, don't give up, and try always to convince him or her that somethings cannot be solved alone. There is no shame in being helped. It's wise to know when we need help.

Cya, H&K

There are no coincidences...

In my opinion, life works in misterious ways. Coincidences for me do not exist, everything has a reason, even if we do not know which is it. Many people have this same thought, the perspective is diferent. Most people say that it's God's will, this thought comes from the idea that God is omniscient, omnipresent and omnipotent and he has a plan for all of us to play in our lifes. Some other people, less religious, think of destiny. Destiny is a supernatural power that guides our lifes and we cannot hide or elude what is "predestined" for us.

 

Of course there exist an oposite point of view. Some people think in free will, as far as i know, they think that they are not bind to something, they make their own future. In this last part I agree with them, for we make our future. I think that we do have destiny, but i also think that it can changed with the choices we make. For we have several options for each there are consecuences. Choose wisely and carefully, and try to think in what is better for you, of course, without hurting others.


Cya, H&K

I thought you were...

First impression counts, but it's not always the correct. Have it ever ocurred to you that you don't speak at all to one person just because you had a bad first impression and from nowhere he or she become to be your best friend? There's a saying that says the world is full of flowers for those who bother to look. And yes, you may find a friend in the last person you thought. First impresion are always important, but not precisely accurate.

It's important to know people before judging whether it's someone we like or not. Prejudices are so common nowadays, but we must take them away and try not to judge people before knowing them. We must give a chance to everyone to show if they are worthy of our friendship and confidence, and so do we. We must never forget that we also are prey of prejudices and critics. We all deserve a second chance.

Cya, H&K

Sex=Love???

Many people claim to be inlove with someone else, they have dated about 2 or 3 times, and of course, they have had sexual relations. I ask myself if sex could mean love. My first answer was that it could be, the fisic atraction is common and it could get people to fall in love. But after thinking a bit I concluded that sex could not mean love, because the pasion is not something that lasts. Love has many meanings, everyone has it's own definition of love. For many people love means, to share each others life and feelings, and more importantly, that there exist feelings for the other person and these feelings last for a long time.

My point is that you can have sex with many people and then dump them, but when you are inlove, you would not be capable of doing such thing. When you have sex you can idealize that person and you may think it's love, but when the relationship is just sex, when you take off the bandage covering your eyes, you come to see the truth, that it's just sex, there are no feelings involved. Now, this kind of relationship can move on, only when both persons want to. Of course that is my point of view... which is yours?

Cya, H&K

Who is next to me???

When i was young i thought that i had a lot of friends, but i was wrong, when i was in trouble I saw none of them, no one was there to bear with me my suffering but my family, and my family was not a backup for me, i fell into depression. Make my way out was difficult, even more when nobody noticed myt state, and i had no help at all. I thank God for granting me a small flash of hope in those dark times, the school was my motive to keep going on. And so I did it.

Nowadays, my friends are one of the most important things in my life, for they are there to support me, i thank all of them for accepting me the way i am. It's been 6 years since i have made very good friends i can trust. They've been by my side always. From that awful experience i've learned that friends are not those who talk to you, but rather those who listen to you.

Cya, H&K

Beyond the natural world...

I've found that people who likes to read, besides of being very intelligent people and having a very good spelling, they also have a very vivid imagination, that's one of the secrets they have to read so many novels and fiction books. The imagination lead them even further than the description of the book. Inside of their imagination, they can create a blue prince, a whole galaxy, the ugliest witch, spells, charms, dragons, planets, characters, and many other things. I am one of those, my imagination can lead me far away from this world, when i'm bored, sometimes i get lost in my thoughts creating a new world. Inside the imagination everything is possible, it is like a dream, but you can control everything that happens there.

Through imagination, many things can be created. Imagination is our source to go on, for we always want to achieve something in our future, we always visualize ourselves in the future as people of succes, happy and wealthy, we also try to visualize the way that we will follow to achieve this. Without imagination, this would not be possible. Imagination is an escape from the real world into a fantasy where our happiness is the prime topic. Feed your imagination so you can always create new ways to improve your life and your future.

Cya, H&K

I... didn't know...

Personaly, i hate when i'm in a conversation, and suddenly i don't know what they are talking about. I find it very frustrating, ever since, i started to ask many things to myself, investigate on the internet about the topic, so the next time i'm in a conversation with that topic, i can understand and participate with my own point of view. School is always a good way to learn many things that you can connect with the current topic, so you can have more things to say than just what you know of the topic. Another interesting thing that i've noticed when someone is not familiar with the topic of conversation, they just stop paying attention. wich in my opinion is wrong, because it's another way to learn of the topic and be part of the conversation too.

 To investigate about any random topic is always good, for you will always have something to say, you may not be an expert of the topic, but at least you can have a point of view and knowledge wich will make anyone look like a cultured person. If you, like me, like to investigate random topics, you must not forget to see the popular topics, news, music, artists, etc, for you can't tell when you might meet someone who doesn't know anything else but those topics. Every day we learn something new, but we can always look for places or people who will teach us even more.

Cya, H&K

Not anymore...

Months ago, a friend of mine was sad because he broke up with his girlfriend, he was mad at her, but he still cared for her because he still loved her. She was no good for him, she didn't care for him, make him suffer for her. I told him that he had to get over her, that he would find someone to love, but he should be sure that she love him too so he would not live the same history again. He tried for months, without succes, he still thought of her, and i kept telling him over and over that she wasn't the right for him. I know the feeling, and it still amaze me how can someone break your heart and still love that person with every single piece of that broken heart.

 Today he gave me the good news that he had got over her, that he had no longer feelings for her. I asked how can he be so sure of that, because i know how much he suffered about her. He told me that he had seen her a couple of days ago, and he didn't feel anything for her, just looked at her like any other girl. I felt so happy for him. I encourage everyone who is heartbroken and still love that person to try to forget, for it's not healthy to love someone who doesn't love you.  Life is full of people and experiences, we must learn of every kind of persons we met and all the experiences we have had in our entire life, for we cannot go to the past; instead we must always look forward.

Cya, H&K

Who am I???

In some of my chats with my friends, it came out the topic of adolescence. I pointed out that it was a very important stage in everybody's life, because when we are teenagers, we form our identity, some people don't have problems to figure this out, but there are others who do have problems. Society, family, school, friends and more things are external factors that help or delay this discovery of ourselves. The main difficulty to find our identity is our parents expectations, I can't blame them to wish the best for uurselves, nor to wish to have perfect sons or daughters, from wich they can be proud, but is precisely this expectations the ones that do not allow us to experience and to live fully.

To have an identity takes time, and patience. The most important thing, that everyone must think, is that no one can make you be something that you aren't. Everyone is special in their own way, and our personality, our family, our friends help us to know who we are, it's when you stop being friend, son or daughter, student, confident, etc, and begin being yourself when you can say you've found your identity. Not that you will not be a friend, son, student, etc anymore, but rather being all of those separated in one.

Cya, H&K

You're not bigger than me...

Today I was talking with some friends about how people can be so mean, cashiers, janitors, teachers, customer service people, and even people on the streets. Many of them think they have power over us just because they have authority. I've always thought that people are equal, no person is more than anyone. The only exception could be when there is difference in the morality of two persons, then one is more valuable than the other but just in that way. No one likes to be degraded, and no one should be in my oppinion.

 I have known many people who think they're the cat's whiskers, and i don't like them very much, i try to live and let live, but i do not allow people to think they're superior. They are people like me, and i don't have to pay the consecuences if they have had a bad day or if they don't like their job. When something like that happens, when people are being rude to me, i try to be polite and tell them to calm down, because i'm not less than they. I must be respected, for I'm worth as much as anyone. Don't let people pass over you.

Cya, H&K

Remember is living again...

A few days ago, an old friend of mine, from junior high, sent me an invitation in facebook to be his friend. I, obviously, accepted; recently we started to chat and ask how have we been, what has become of our lifes, if we study, if we have seen or talked to anyone from our generation. We started to remember our old friends from school, teachers, and many things more. I started to think in the many moments I spent in the classroom living all kinds of feelings and experiences. And today, a friend from high school also made me remember my friends, my teachers, and I started to think how different were my schools, and how I have changed since i was 11.

While i was recalling all these memories, i found all kinds of feelings that i felt once and i started to feel again while i was remembering; like sadness, happiness, loneliness, stress, deception, love, caring, admiration, anger, frustration, and many more. It is said that history  is the study of the past to understand the present and foresee the future. When we look back in our lifes, we don't just understand our present, but we learn of it, and more importantly, we live it again. We should, once in a while, take a time to remember all our life, to live again everything that make us happy and the decisive moments of our lives that made us who we are now.

Cya, H&K

MERRY UN-BIRTHDAY

Today was a friend's birthday, so i congratulated her, since she is one of my best friends. She said that i should not have bothered in congratulating her, that i could congratulate her tomorrow, in advance of her next birthday. I said that in that case, i was calling to congratulate her for her birthday of  this year, and tomorrow i would call to congratulate her for the next one. When i finished talking to her i remembered a passage of the book "Through the Looking-Glass, and What Alice Found There", writen by Lewis Carrol, where Humpty Dumpty explained to Alice what an unbirthday is. This same concept is used in the Disney movie "Alice in Wonderland" where takes place an interesting tea party. The Mad Hatter, the March Hare and a sleeping Dormouse are celebrating their unbirthday.

There was a time when i used to congratulate my friends everyone for our unbirthday, this way, every day was a special day, every day was unique, and there was nothing but joy, since that's a way to see and live life. We must be grateful to have the opportunity to live another day, regrets should not be allowed. I try to live life to the fullest every day. And you?

If today is your birthday, then congratulations!!! If it isn't, come an celebrate with us our unbirthday! Everyone are most welcome to join us. Would you like a cup of tea? LOL!!!

Cya, H&K

I'm in love with him... her... I DON'T KNOW!!!

Homosexuality is something that has existed since the begginings of time, it has its own history, even we can look to famous personalities who were gay... To be gay is not a sin, nor a disease, for in 1990, the World Health Organization declared that homosexuality was not a disease but a choice. The world percentage of gay people is increasing because of the new ways of think and see the world, discrimination is diminishing daily, that's why gay people have stopped hiding.  There is not shame in being gay, neither something to be proud of. Gay people are not different from straight people.



Stereotypes is something really annoying, not all the gay men likes Lady GaGa, Britney Spears, nor wear female clothes, nor have a girly personality, and so with lesbians. There will be people who fit in these stereotypes, and they have chose to be that way. Homosexuality has no explanation yet, and, personaly, i hope there won't be one. For when cientists find a chromosome associated with homosexuality, when the time comes for eugen, fathers are not going to want their babies to be gay in the future, they will want sons and daughters who will live a normal life. I must repeat... Gay people are not less than straight. Yes, we have difficulties when we grow up, but it's up to the society to be the same way or change and accept gays and lesbians the way they are (as long as they respect other people). Accept people for who they are.

Cya, H&K

Something to believe...

I was raised catholic, and i like my religion in many things, but i disagree in several things, starting for the discrimination against gay people. I have done a few research about other religions and their beliefs. Many of them do not discriminate homosexuality as hard as the catholic religion, though, it depends if everyone will follow that example. Catholic religion is full of punishments, and in some way, it has just a few rewards for following the rules. On the other hand, budism and hinduism have an eficient way to advise the best way of living, they have few rules, and the concept of 'karma' has atracted me in so many ways, mostly because it punishes whenever you've done something bad, and rewards you when you do something good. This same concept is applied in the wiccan religion, but it has other name called the law of three; it has the same principle, the difference is that when you do something good or bad, it comes back to you in the same way but multiplied by three.

 Another thing that i don't precisely like of the catholic religion is the discrimination against woman, you will say that it doesn't, but you must look in the past of the religion to find this discrimination, beggining with the Genesis, Adan was created first, Eva was created from Adan, and she sinned, turning the woman in something evil and untrustworthy. Now, if we look to the wiccan religion we can find that the woman is the center of the religion, though, the man is not missing here, it also have a special role to play. The woman is the main simbol of life and birth, we would not exist if not for a woman. It is also explained by cientific facts, when we are fetus, in our development, we are, at the beggining, formed as woman. it's later when we have male characteristics.



All the religion has something that we might like and we might not, but it's the way we interpretate religion the reason to accept or reject it. We can find many interpretations and many points of view, and many religions. I, for myself, have decided to combine everything that i like from religions, also i have to accept rules and punishments, like the ones i've talked of before. Wich is your religion? or the religions you chose to believe in?

Cya, H&K

Love???

I have very good friends, they are also a couple, and i love hanging out with them... But, from time to time, i feel strange around them, because i feel like hindering them to showing their love. They show their love, and i'm not against them, but the opposite, i'm happy to see them together, but still i find that something is missing in my life. Not a material thing, but love, someone to care for me. Someone to hug, to kiss, someone to share my life. I found myself wanting to have a boyfriend, but it's so hard to find love. Many friends tell me that love is not something to find, but rather something that comes when you are not looking.

There are many sayings: 'God will provide', 'God know why he does things' 'God said, help yourself and i'll help you', 'All in due time'. And so many others, and this confuses me... Everything tells me to try to find love, and also tells me not to. Who should i believe? The answer is not clear yet, but i'll try to keep moving on and live my life the way i have been doing. From time to time, love is a priority to me, but most of the time, it isn't, i find myself happy to be alive, to have family, friends, school, health and so much more. Love can wait a bit.

Cya, H&K

Style??? Always!!!

Have you ever thought you have no style??? I did. Sometime in my life... i've changed so much since i was a kid, when i was in junior high, i thought i had no style at all, fashion seemed as something that was not meant for me, i used to wear pants and long t-shirts, then when i was in high school, i changed my style, jeans and t-shirts were my usual style, and it still is, but now i try to make it more fashionable, sometimes a shirt goes well, shoes instead of tennis. But it wasn't only my clothes the one that changed, also my hairstyle, i've had my hair long, short, and several types of colors on it. I'm always changing my style, and i've found myself wanting to change again and again.

I've learned that everyone has his own style, even if it's not fashion at all, or wearing  the season style. The style is something that you decide, people should wear whatever they like and the way they feel comfortable, i'm not against fashion, but there are styles that not suit everyone. Also not everyone have the money to wear all what they want. I'm comfortable with what i wear, and if somebody doesn't like it, i'm sorry for him, he must not like what he is wearing, and one he or she is probably one of the fashion hunters. who will try always to be top fashion. So, be happy and be comfortable with what you are wearing.

Cya, H&K

Never is late...

Today i had a lot of work to be done, a friend of mine was helping me, school never ends, nor learning. I can't complain that i've learned so much last year, but the only thing i complain about is to have homework for holydays. Being working for long hours without a rest is something that gets very tired, to check books, tables, notes, arguing about the right interpretation of some data.

We took a break, and i suggested to go out and walk a while, it was very good, we ended in a park near my house, and it had some playgrounds, so we decided to go and see, more like, go and play. we play in all the possible games there were there. We were like 15 minutes on the seesaw, also on the swing, and several games more. We had so much fun like we have not had in months, it was like being a kid again and having nothing to worry about.

Even when we have a lot of work, we can always find time for ourselves and have some fun, when you're traveling all the way to your work, on your way back, when you have a rest, with 5 minutes it's enough to be kid again, life keeps us young as long as we want it that way. Joy and fun are there, it's up to us to use them or not, though we might regret of not chosing them.

Cya, H&K

Life keeps going...

About a month ago i started dating a guy, we met at some bar, and we liked each other, he wasn't a super model, but he was cute, and he was also a nice guy, so i said to my self, 'why don't give my self a chance?'. This guy showed to care about me, he messaged me almost everyday, for a couple of weeks, and so... But suddenly he stopped, he canceled me some times, and then, i recieved a message from him, it said that he liked me, but that he wasn't the guy for me. I didn't understand why he told me that, i wasn't in love yet, but i was starting to like him very much, even a close friend joked about we were going to get married, because this seemed pretty serious. I tried to talk to him in vane, and finaly i got an answer, it was another message, sent on december, 30th. The message said the same as the previous one, but it had more. It said that this wasn't meant to be right now, he wasn't looking for a relationship, that he wasn't ready, and also said that it was his fault not mine, and so on. I felt so disapointed, what a way to finish my year.

Contrary to what you might think, i didn't cry, nor got depressed. i said to me, 'there is no use crying'. Life and God works in misterious ways, and if he wasn't meant to be for me, i must then wait for the one who will fill my heart. I have so much to worry about besides love; but don't misunderstand me. Yes, love is one of my priorities, but not the main one, because, my main priority is to be happy, either being single or having a boyfriend, i must be happy to be alive, to have a family who loves me, friends who care about me, school that keeps me busy. And much more things to keep going. Therefore, if you are single, don't give up, neither rush to find your prince charming or your white princess, you have a lot of things to live for yet. And if you are in a relationship, be happy to have someone to share your life, because many would pay (not literaly) to be in your place.

Cya, H&K

Cupid must be sad...

Today, for some reason, i found myself thinking of a friend of mine that i haven't seen for a year or so. i've known him for quite a while, though we are not close friends but we are good friends; he's on a relationship, and i think he is very lucky to have a boyfriend like the one he has. The reason? His boyfriend is not ugly, though he is not prince charming (yes, for your information, i have met this guy), he's a nice person, he has money but he is not rich, he has a car, and most importantly, he is so in love of my friend.

Recently i have been told the sad part of this story. Another friend of us told me that my friend doesn't love him with the same intensity, for he took advantage of his boyfriend, he asks him to buy him stuff, asks him to take him, or pick him from partys where he meets other guys and cheats on his boyfriend.

His boyfriend is in some way aware of this, and 'allows' it to happen, why? is the question. The reason is that he loves him too much, and he doesn't want to loose him. On my personal oppinion, this shouldn't be allowed by the nature, i know that we all like to be pampered, but that's not a reason to abuse of the kindness of the one who love us. To be in a relationship mean to give love in exchange of nothing, means not to recieve things and pay with love. This reminds me a question wich answer allow us to know if we are ready to love someone, this appears in a book from Erick Fromm. If you can tell the difference, then you are ready. Which one is the correct?

    "I love you because I need you"        or          "I need you because I love you"

If you chose the second one, then you are ready. If you chose the first one, then grow up and stop thinking of you and start thinking about your partner! Love is the most beautiful thing on earth, it's something worth living and fighting for.  Lets keep it that way.

Cya, H&K

Even so... I love it...

Today i went out with a friend of mine to help him buy some pants, and jeans. After viewing some stores and prices, we decided to go for something to eat, while we were eating we were arguing about the difficulty to find clothes that we like and that fit us, because we are so different he is tall and i'm small, he is robust and i'm thin.

We ended arguing about the best kind of body, he though that the best was the athletic type, I agreed with him, but i also told him that even when that this only apply to the fashion world, because everyone has his own characteristics, and everyone are different. Then i remembered a video from another blog (my inspiration to create my own blog by the way) that reminded us that our bodies are not meant to be perfect, and we have no need to criticise ourselves, for we all are beautiful.

So i would like to quote his own words and i also want to share his video.

"Even if you don’t like the way your body looks, start by loving the things it does".

I love my body, not because it is perfect, but for what it does for me. Do you love yours?

Cya, H&K

...And now he is far away...

A couple of weeks ago, a friend of mine had great news for me... he had found love, i was so happy fo him. The news was that he was going to try out how things went with this new guy... but now, he is depressed because his boyfriend had to go back home, he was just on vacations here in the city, so now he is devastated, and i was told that this guy told my friend all this from the very beginning of this

I told him that it wasn't that bad, not that he wouldn't see him anymore, he said that it was true, that he lived about 2 hours from the city, but he really wanted him nearby. And i understand his point of view; i know how does this feels like, how does it feel to be in love with someone else and be apart or live far from each other can feel like hurting the heart and ripping the soul; feeling the loneliness and emptiness... but you must always look forward, and try to see that it's not the end of the world, but rather a test to prove your love is true. Now i hope he gets better.

Cya, H&K

Happy New Year!!!!

Happy new year to everyone!

I want to wish you all happiness for this year and blessings for everyone, family, friends, etc, may this year be full of success, joy, health, work/studies and love.

Lets hope we can make of this a famous blog despite of not being an official website of my own, so, lets see how it works.

Cya, H&K